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Bringing you up to speed.

Hello! Happy New Year!

This could possibly be the longest I have stayed away. I hate these catch up posts, how can you possibly cram December holidays, Christmas, New year, Big School, ALL the extra murals, ALL the homework, losing our long term helper, looking after my own house, the start of 2015… all into one post? You just can’t. It won’t do any of it justice. But I shall try…

In the words of the king in Alice in Wonderland:

Begin at the beginning and go on till you come to the end: then stop.”  

So the beginning. We had a very chilled Christmas. My Favourite People AKA my sister and her family spent the holidays with us and we did very little else, other than chill. We rang in the New Year over board games and biryani and hoped that the year which lay ahead would be as calm as the way we had welcomed it in.

Not so and we’re only 30 days in.

After five years, we decided that we no longer needed live-in help. With both kids being older and out of the house all day, my hours slightly more flexible and a medium sized house… we couldn’t justify having full time help anymore. So we said goodbye to Zoleka who has been a faithful and loyal helper. “Keeping house” isn’t as disastrous as I thought it would be. If you’ve been reading for a while, you’ll know I don’t really like housework. I’m the youngest of four kids, I had older siblings to do all the dirty work, and then I married a man who isn’t afraid of housework so I’ve never really had to clean up after people. And then we had zoleka since the kids were little, so except on the odd occasion and during the holidays, I didn’t really ever have to wash, iron, sweep, scrub and all those other swear words associated with cleaning. But this is a blog post all on it’s own. I’ll share how I “keep house” and I’d be keen to hear how everyone else does it. It’s been just over three weeks and I still haven’t called on my “piece-job” helper who I have on standby for once a week deep cleaning because we’ve been managing quite OK so far.

Then Big School. Guys, it’s like a mine field. New teachers, new rules, new schedules, new routines. Everyday is different, and everyday requires a different something-something that he needs to take, or that he needs to remember. Again, I will blog about this separately and in that post I will add a photo of my monthly calendar and what it looks like! Just today we had to remember library book, tuck money, swimming clothes and show and tell item. That’s besides homework book, reading book and word book, and the little gift for the student teacher who finishes off today, while making a note of what time school finishes today – because he finishes a different time most days depending on the extra mural. I feel a bit frazzled, I won’t lie. The good news is that he is doing SO well. Again,  I will post about this in a school post, but can I just say how HAPPY I am that we held him back and that he is repeating Grade R with children who are all his age. And oh yes, he has the edge, just like all you know-it-all moms who said so! He already has private reading lessons with the principal and he is just flourishing.

Hannah, my little Rose, continues to blossom. Milestone of milestones, she opted to do ballet this term and wait for it… wanted to wear a PINK skirt and leotard. My Hannah? Doing ballet and wearing pink! The tomboy has not completely disappeared, don’t worry… but she has stopped painting with her kiddie eye shadow and started putting it on her face. ALL over a face so that she looks like something out of KISS:


 My Reader frightens me… I haven’t read a blog post in over 6 weeks so if you’ve missed my essay long comments on your blog, don’t take it personally! I think I’m going to delete all and just start from scratch because being so far behind is giving my OCD filter the heebeejeebies. 

I know it’s late, but I do wish you all a wonderful 2015. I don’t do a word for the year and all that stuff but I do have personal aspirations all which revolve around not being so busy this year. Creating time to be the best mother, wife, sister, daughter, friend I can be and not waste time on the things that are inconsequential. And it really isn’t that hard to do. Remember, there’s a difference between good-busy and bad-busy and last year was full of bad-busy for me. This year I’m all about the good-busy!

Ode to the year that was…

I wish I had something insightful and judicious to say on this the last day of the year 2011. But the truth is, I don’t. I wanted to wax lyrical about how time flies and how we should reflect on the year that was and learn from our mistakes and endeavour to make 2012 the best year yet, but that would just sound like a worn out cliché. So instead, I’ve decided to look at some (and by no means all) of the amazing things that have happened during the year, to reminisce on how much fun I had with my kids, my family and my friends. I can’t possibly relate every event, every smile, every warm feeling I experienced over the last 365 and a quarter days, but here are a few which bring a smile to my lips when I think about them, even now…

Liam sleeps through the night … for good.

Really, this is big for us. We spent the whole of 2009 and 2010, sleepless in Gauteng. As you know from previous blog posts, Liam was awake more than he was asleep during his first two years; he slept for an hour at a time, two hours if we were lucky. We thought it would never end; we were exhausted, disheartened and irritated, even though we had accepted that our child just had an extreme dislike for sleep and no sleep training could crack his code. Then somewhere in the middle of 2011, Liam just started sleeping like a “baby.” All night. I think I’d go as far as to say that this could have been the highlight of my year. Liam now sleeps like the proverbial dead: through thunder storms, through his Dad yelling at the TV during a soccer game, through Hannah’s teething tantrums in the middle of the night – his code was finally cracked in 2011!

Hannah learns to walk…

Your children reach many amazing milestones, each probably as important as the next in terms of development. But there’s just something about watching your baby take his or her first steps. I’m not sure why? Surely getting teeth is as important, if your kid plans on eating a big juicy steak one day? Surely the art of learning new words is as important, because communication is key in the game of life. But learning to walk… watching your baby take that huge leap from crawling to walking, is like watching a miracle unfold. Those fat juicy thighs, those chubby little toes, those aeroplane arms as they flap to help them balance, and the delight on their faces as they realize they can transport themselves on two legs, instead of all fours. It’s just priceless. Hannah walked on her first birthday. She had been threatening to walk for a while, but on the night of her birthday, she took her first steps unassisted. I remember exactly what she was wearing, down to her sparkly Hello Kitty shoes. I remember the look on her face, the look on Liam’s face! A beautiful moment.

Granny and Pa move out of the family home…

Yes, my parents moved out of the home I grew up in, the only home I knew. But more so than this, it made me realize and value the wonderful childhood I had had, and how I want to instill this in my own children’s lives. It’s not about the physical building, but rather the home which is where the heart is. I want my children to know their grandparents and the aunts and uncles and cousins. I want them to understand the importance of family; no matter how near or far we are from each other. I want them to remember important people’s birthdays and call them or send a gift if we can, because that shows your appreciation for that person, and there is nothing more important than placing value and respect on others, it does wonders for you, and for that person. I had a revelation about family in 2011; we need to love the other person, for the other person’s sake. It’s not always easy, but it’s always worth it. We can make lots of money, we can live in fabulous houses and drive fancy cars, we can move across the world to give ourselves a better life, but these things will not ever fill the void that only the love for and of other people can.

I turned 30…

No big deal, age ain’t nothing but a number, right? But with age, comes wisdom, and perhaps on such a big birthday, God grants you a double dose! Not mental wisdom, because we all know, I could do with bucket loads of that! But the Divine wisdom that brings you peace and understanding. I’ve learned to accept that there are some things that I can’t change, that there are some people that I will never be able to change (read husband),  and that there are thorns that will always be in my side, that will never leave me no matter what sorts of mental surgery I undergo. But that’s ok, because I’ve learned that change starts from the inside, and that rather than trying to change everyone else, I should start to change myself, and you’ll be amazed at how by changing yourself, it somehow changes everything else – positively.

My online diary to my children begins…

The greatest thing I have done in my life, is mother these two children of mine. The two greatest gifts I have received from God. And my greatest gift to them, will be this online journal of their lives – our lives. When I started blogging, I did so with the sole intention of writing about the kids, and their day to day accomplishments and disappointments and milestones and all the other by-the-way sort of things that happen in the life of a child. But the more I write, the more I see that this is as much for me, as it is for them. Every mother will tell you how fast they grow, how time flies, how quickly they grow out of your lap, and these memoirs will forever remind me of this time when they were small enough for kisses and hugs; small enough for me, their mother, to make everything better again; this time when I was their everything and they were my all… and always will be.

Happy New Year everyone, I pray that the best of your 2011, will be the worst of your 2012. To my babies and the love of my life, I look forward to all the amazing things we will discover together in 2012. xxx